You have broken up. Your partner said it was all over. But you don’t want it to be. You want to keep the relationship going. And now your ex is showing a bit of interest in you again. Your ex might be

• more interested in going out with you than they have been in the recent past,

• or spending more time with you than before,

• or you might even have them flirting with you.

And now you are asking yourself, "Does my ex want to get back with me"?

It is okay to be a little bit hopeful, but you also want to be self protective, too. You want to avoid jumping the gun and make sure that you don’t chase them away again. And you want to make sure that if you get back together again, that it is for the right reasons FOR YOU.

Those expressions of interest above are definitely very common signs that your ex is interested in getting you back.

But even if you want to get back with your ex, you should not simply jump into things. The best way to play things is to play slightly hard to get, which is probably what your ex will best respond to anyway. If you simply jump into things full force, then you may find your ex pushing you back again.

In fact, if your ex is giving indications that he or she wants you back, then the odds are, it was you playing hard to get that led to the renewed interest in the first place. So don’t drop EVERY activity you took up when the relationship ended and don’t drop your friends who were there for you during your difficult times. Just  let  your  ex  back  into  your  life s-l-o-w-l-y. Keep up all the other interesting activities and relationships you took up while you were trying to get over your ex.

Usually when you break up with your ex, or he or she breaks up with you, there is a natural level of missing one another, or longing to get back together. This is especially true following a relationship of a year or longer. Your ex is probably going to miss you no matter what, because you share many memories from your time together.

But there are other emotions that come into play including past regrets. If you are wondering "does my ex want to get back with me" the odds are that your ex may be thinking the same thing for the same reasons. So it may be that they will want some things to change in the future. And that is fine. Relationships always have an aspect of give and take and compromise.

But I have a warning too. Sometimes an ex shows interest as part of a game they are playing. They might not actually want to get you back, just to know they could if they wanted to. Or even worse they might even be trying to get revenge back on you for something they think you did wrong.

As I said earlier: you want to be slightly self protective. You want to check out the situation to make sure they are genuine in wanting a good and loving relationship with you. If you get back together you want it to be even better than it was. You certainly don’t want it to be worse or to have another break-up.

This is common, and a lot of people find themselves wondering "does my ex want to get back with me?", but the truth is, it’s better to get a feel for the situation before you commit to the relationship again. In reality, if your ex does want to get back with you, playing slightly hard to get is the best scenario because it will prevent you from getting hurt if your ex is not really serious about getting back with you.

And then you will want to have a complete plan for getting back together again. Your relationship broke up because at least one of you thought you had good reasons for doing so. You need to do some further thinking about what your relationship could be and how best to work it all out.

Does that make sense?

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HP
16 Feb 2009

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